It is now over a year since I first started being embroiled and groomed by the man I believe conned me. Even though I know I have lost money when I see him or think of him, I almost cannot believe it happened to me, I still somehow want what he told me to be true. And if what I hear is true the man concerned is back in action so shortly another woman could be in the same position as me, trying to make sense of how she gave money to someone who on the face of it could absolutely be trusted but in the end turned out to be a very clever manipulater.
So this You and Yours guide to scams is very very helpful: http://www.bbc.co.uk/guides/zxq8frd
My "scammer" seemed to be honest, god fearing, wealthy, a member of a good family. I felt valued when I told him about some of the things that had happened in me in life. It felt lovely to share and he used that information to get to me. The police do want to speak with him to hear his side of the story or to charge him if the evidence from a range of women stacks up against him. So as well as looking for his address still, if anyone thinks they too may have been scammed by the same man I think scammed me, I would like to hear from them as working together may also be a way to close the door on fraud.
