60 60.

I am wondering if over the course of the decade from my 60th, I could make it to 60 places, places abroad, and do I could repeat visits.  Just thoughts at present, but made me think I should upload some pictures from these lovely places. So I start in London on my actual 60th.

How I am spending the New Year

It has been a wonderful Christmas and now after several days unwell I am once again trying to meet the Police's request that I revisit all the evidence in my potential fraud case.  There is so much correspondence in connection with it,  it needs going through in great detail.  I have been rechecking everything for 2 months or more!  Some evenings the entermainment has been watching Jordan Banjo or Ashley Banjo which I always find fascinating.   And so as the new year turns - the old year is still in my mind.      It does not anger me so much now unless I think about it, having to find the evidence for the police means it is in my mind more than I would wish for.   Now if only that money just came back, how wonderful that would be.    Wishful thinking?    Well at present yes, but who knows.

Jordan Banjo, on I am a Celebrity.

I am sitting going through all the emails related to the business deal done last year that went awry and watching Jordan Banjo on TV. He comes across as a nice guy.  And I am sure he is, but I am interested in the things that he has said about his Dad.  And having done business with a relative of his have found it all a bit surreal.   Rather a lot of anger coming up at times.

Good news bad news.

Bloody Ex

Bloody Angry Now Judge Organised

Good Energy Otherwise Real Girl Is Aware

Pension Problems Possibly Pierced

Coping Computer Constraints

Happy Hopes Hijacked.

Bloody bloody EX.

Sports criminology

A big congrats to big brother, Nic Groombridge, on the publication of his book Sports Criminology.  Super proud of your intelligence and achievements.  http://policypress.co.uk/sports-criminology

Plucked by a musical memory.

I believe in nothing anymore,  there is just the anger. In my head today I have ranted and yet I bet if I try and put it on paper about how it feels to trust someone, something - let it into one's heart and head, well I will try

I have been watching the powerful series Undercover - very powerful, also set in familiar territory physically speaking but there was a moment in it when she accuses her ex husband of raping her because the man she gave consent to is not the man he is.  Well I think a lot of us know how that feels, when it turns out that the person we thought was everything turns out to be not just a liar, sadly that often goees with the territory of love,  but a liar with a plan,  someone who worms into your being, gets to know you, your family, you hopes, your dreams who uses that information and uses, that knowledge. A liar who sits with you as you watch your father die and who gives his sympathy and holds you as you cry but then who lifts that man's memory and pockets it in his new dress suit, a new lady on his arm.   A hundred shares go around the world, come into my facebook and out again and immediately the share button sends pictures for prayers, pictures for hopes, pictures for the dying, the victims of the unjust but I cannot get a message out there at all.  There are people who know this man, people who know what he has truly done, but these people have been told, forget him forget the damage he has done, the money you have lost move on. But the only person who moves on is him, to his next victim and the next victim and the next victim.  And do you know how that makes me feel.  So angry,

So please please please women who know where he is, women who have been his victim, who have been plucked by the musical instrument,  please please report it.  Report it, report it and then the police may do something.

This is not something I did to myself, but something someone deliberately did to me and then when I try to speak out about it, someone who tries to silence me.  Well today I just feel too sad and angry to be silent.

Nothing that he did, but just a trigger that brings it back.

You and Yours Guide to help avoid being scammed.

It is now over a year since I first started being embroiled and groomed by the man I believe conned me. Even though I know I have lost money when I see him or think of him, I almost cannot believe it happened to me, I still somehow want what he told me to be true.   And if what I hear is true the man concerned is back in action so shortly another woman could be in the same position as me, trying to make sense of how she gave money to someone who on the face of it could absolutely be trusted but in the end turned out to be a very clever manipulater.

So this You and Yours guide to scams is very very helpful: http://www.bbc.co.uk/guides/zxq8frd


My "scammer" seemed to be honest, god fearing, wealthy, a member of a good family.  I felt valued when I told him about some of the things that had happened in me in life.  It felt lovely to share and he used that information to get to me.  The police do want to speak with him to hear his side of the story or to charge him if the evidence from a range of women stacks up against him. So as well as looking for his address still, if anyone thinks they too may have been scammed by the same man I think scammed me, I would like to hear from them as working together may also be a way to close the door on fraud.