I have found trying to go with the flow is the best strategy when living abroad especially when I do not understand the language., Though I realised by the end of last week that I was much more tense than I had noticed up till then. . However, my son, manages to send me through the roof on a regular basis, even at this distance or maybe especially at this distance and I really do not know how to manage the situation or improve the quality of communication between us to enable this year to go ahead with little inconvenience or stress to either of us. It is true that I am a major control freak so that is a contributing factor, but I was only able to go away because of his promise to deal with everything back home from letting in the new tenant, paying the bills etc. It is very kind of him to do it, provided it works. But my hope that I would see him on Skype several times last week came to naught. so we arranged to meet online yesterday which should have been fine as he was due to be home to greet his new flatmate. So I popped online on a regular basis, but nothing I texted to ask when we would going to discuss the now several urgent things I wanted dealing..Nothing. By 10pm I was beginning to wonder what was going on but phone calls home did not help. I even realised I could try ringing on Skype. Nothing. In the end I rang the tenant only to be told by him that my son had rescheduled his tenancy. I am sure from my son's point of view all my stressing over this is both annoying and unnecessary. But I really do not know how to be abroad and feel so out of control. He finally texted me at 5 am this morning. So all suggestions as to how to make us work more effectively together much appreciated.
One nice thing happened today I was actually offered my old teaching post back in the UK. Just two hours, but nice to have the offer, but I have been juggling teaching, examining, TESCO, teaching online, nursery work etc etc for the last two years and have only been able to go away for a couple of days at at a time so the chance to be abroad and have a contract makes much more sense for the moment.
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With regard to communicating with N - does he have Skype on his phone and if so he could maybe promise to make contact/accept a call from you at a mutually convenient time.